The countdown begins

I should be excited, but I am actually kinda bummed. My husband will be home about a week from now. I have seen him approximately 5 days in the past 3 months. While I am happy to see him and happier that he will be home for a few weeks before he goes back to the middle of nowhere for a few weeks, I am inpatient.
You see, originally I thought he was going to be home before the weekend. I could really use him this weekend with Borough Day and all, but with his job, it is almost impossible to have exact dates. I had this mental countdown going on, and now it is all out of whack. Yup, I am having a pity party, and rightly so! Three stinking months without him totally and utterly stinks! Just me and the kids! No family here! Just me and my two kids who are getting sick of me at this point! Ok, I will stop with the exclamation points.
Now that my husband has a bit more of a schedule, we are trying something new. We are actually trying to plan our family events ahead of time (and hopefully a date). I am excited because usually my husband and I are so exhausted by the time he gets to come home that we forget to plan anything and usually wind up doing nothing. With it being autumn, there are so many family activities and field trips for the kids that it will be fun to be able to do them as a family! I don’t think we will  be able to fit them all in.
You see that is the bummer right there! (sorry about that exclamation. It just slipped out.) I am grateful he has a job and one he likes, but I hate that he is gone so much. He has said that with this new job, he should have a schedule more like three to four weeks being gone and a week to two weeks home. It is the best schedule we have had since he changed careers two years ago. I keep very busy while he is gone, but it is not always easy. Lately, I have even been contemplating the idea of moving next summer to be closer to some of my friends and family back home. It is not that I don’t love my friends here. I do. However, we all have different schedules, and it gets lonely. Most of my friends here have family here. I don’t. And I will admit that sometimes it is hard not to get jealous of them because they get to see their husbands every day or most days. I guess sometimes I feel kinda lost.
So there it is. I am excited. I am frustrated. I am confused. I know, what else is new! There I go with the stupid exclamations again. I hope you all have a great week.



  1. thypolarlife
    September 20, 2010 at 8:52 pm

    Wow! I can’t imagine being without my husband for that long.
    I would feel lost too. Thanks for sharing.

  2. bearhaven
    September 20, 2010 at 11:46 pm

    This is the second time that he has been gone for a really long time while working as a geologist. I am hopeful that with his new job that it really will be more scheduled 🙂

  3. Jenny @Home is Where...
    September 21, 2010 at 2:58 am

    oh wow, I’d be lonely, too. Cyber hugs to you.

    • bearhaven
      September 22, 2010 at 5:07 pm

      thanks. I keep pretty busy to combat the lonelies

  4. Heather
    September 21, 2010 at 5:27 am

    I’m so sorry you are going thru this. I get upset when my husband is late for dinner, I can’t imagine not seeing him for a month at a time. I hope things change for you guys soon. On the brighter side, you get to keep things new and fresh in your marriage…, but distance can also strain a marrige. Just keep your focus and stay strong. Hopefully things will change.
    Heather from Mommy Only Has Two Hands!
    Rescue Her!

    • bearhaven
      September 22, 2010 at 5:08 pm

      I hope so too. I am hoping eventually he will be in an office position. Granted we would have to move, but at that point, I think it would be worth it

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