Family, Homeschool, Parenting

Things that make me say grrr…

I am sure a lot of you read the article on Yahoo today about the parents who are keeping their child’s gender under wraps, and from my friends who discussed it on Facebook, it kind of seemed we were all at the “What the Heck???” consensus. However, there were some things that I haven’t said, that I felt I needed to get off my chest on this matter.
I get what they are doing it, however, I don’t agree with it. The one son is obviously uncomfortable with what is going on in his life because it stated that he was not going to conventional school because of questions about his gender. It also said he had to tell his mom to let the leaders of the nature center know he was a boy. What is going to happen when he is older?
I think this article makes parents like me, and some of my friends, look like freaks. We aren’t freaks. I have two children, a son and a daughter. If my daughter wants to make mud pies and play with action figures, I am down with that. If my son wants to play with dolls and occasionally try on his sister’s fairy wings, I am down with that too. My son takes dance. He does it because he enjoys it, and I love it because it is helping him with coordination which will help him with sports when he is older. My children are well-rounded. They also know who they are.
Of course the article had to mention that these parents homeschool. Why is it almost every time you see these kinds of articles or see weird parents on television, it almost always says that the parents homeschool. While people like this do exist, most of us are not like that. We homeschool for different reasons and use different methods, but not all of us are freaks. We also don’t like the stereotypes that make us look like we are that way. Honestly, I was not originally going to homeschool my children. However, due to certain circumstances, I changed my mind when my son was in kindergarten. Going to school just wasn’t working for him. Homeschool is not for everyone, just like public school or private school is not for everyone. I really hate the stereotypes that are brought up when homeschooling is mentioned. I can’t tell you how many times I have had people tell me that my children aren’t going to be socialized because they aren’t at school. My children have a very active social life and participate in a wide variety of activities. It just infuriates me when I read articles like this, and they just have to mention the parents homeschool their children. Not all of us are like that, and I don’t want to be lumped into a group with people like that.
So yes, I get what they are trying to do, but I don’t think it is going to work for them. I think their children are going to end up confused and have a hard time in many aspects of their lives. I also think that stories like this make quirky families like mine look bad, and that just won’t do.



  1. Laila Berzins
    June 3, 2011 at 10:33 pm

    Kudos to you, I completely agree. No matter what your gender, it does not mean you are confined to any specific gender roles! Maybe they are actually keeping the gender under wraps simply for that purpose!
    I recently found out about someone else who is challenging stereotypes regarding gender, and is empowering children to be strong, self-reliant, and make great decisions:) She’s referred to as NYC’s #1 Mommy Rocker! Her name is Melissa Levis, aka “Moey” of Moey’s Music Party, and she has a fairy tale DVD coming out called Happily Ever Moey. In the DVD, she has taken classic fairy tales and given them a contemporary spin to challenge the traditional fairy tale ending as well as gender role stereotypes.
    For example,
    Little Red Riding Hood rescues herself and gives the wolf a judo-kick that sends him running!
    In The Three Little Pigs, it asks you to take your time, work hard, and don’t let anyone “blow you down!”
Snow White and Sleeping Beauty become heroes and sing, “I’m no helpless maiden, the whole wide world is awaitin’!” Best of all, it’s a empowering story because they gives themselves a kiss to wake up. No need to wait for a prince!
    If you know anyone who would be interested in reviewing her upcoming DVD, or just learning about her great music, her site is
    Happy blogging!

    • bearhaven
      June 6, 2011 at 9:42 pm

      I would be interested in reviewing it.

      • Melissa Levis
        November 8, 2011 at 1:07 pm

        I am so sorry for the embarrassing delay in sending you a copy of our musical fairytale DVD with new kid-power endings! As a Bear lover, I bet you would especially enjoy our retelling of Goldilocks as a parable to respect the environment and leave the bears alone! Please send me your email and I can send you a download link.
        Many thanks,
        Melissa Levis
        AKA – Moey! NYC’s #1 Mommy Rocker

  2. Laila Berzins
    June 7, 2011 at 8:46 pm

    Excellent! Please email your contact information/mailing address to
    If you think this could be an article, please let us know!
    Thanks again,

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