Pregnancy tests are just not funny

April Fool’s Day is a day of elaborate jokes and pranking. Heck, I have participated in my fair share of fairly epic pranks. However, there is one “joke” that gets pulled year after year, and it is never funny. That “joke” in question is a fake pregnancy announcement.

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I use “joke” loosely in the above statement because it really is no joke at all. On April Fool’s Day after I had my first miscarriage, one of my Facebook friends, posted a pregnancy test on her wall. I am sure she thought of it as a harmless prank, but it felt like a kick in the gut. Here is this chick basically saying, “Ha Ha. Psyche! I am not really pregnant. Pregnancy is soooo hilarious, you all.” All I kept feeling was how my body failed me, how I was supposed to be a few months away from having my sweet baby, and all I had was an empty womb and a still broken heart.

Women grieve differently. Some women who are struggling with infertility or suffered miscarriages can see this and not be affected. I am not one of them. My back to back losses made me feel like a failure. They ripped my heart apart. I fell apart. I had nightmares. In fact, I still have nightmares sometimes, and it has been over four years since my last loss. For many women, this “joke” acts as a trigger, a reminder of how our bodies have not given us what we wanted, a reminder of what we have lost.

I have written about my losses quite a bit, as well as my journey to my rainbow baby. I have done it because miscarriage is still a somewhat taboo subject, and many people are still insensitive about the subject. My losses spiraled me to a very dark point in my life. The feelings from my losses made me want to rip my heart out to ease the hurt inside me. So I wrote and wrote and wrote…to heal…to share…and to help others understand.

There are plenty of jokes that you can try for April Fool’s Day, but don’t be a jerk. “Jokes” like a fake pregnancy announcement can really hurt someone you love, someone who may be struggling with infertility or someone who may have miscarried. Because these are subjects that are not always shared, you may not even know about their struggles, so find something else. Don’t be insensitive. Be funny. Be creative. Don’t be a jerk on April Fool’s Day.

2 thoughts on “Pregnancy tests are just not funny

  1. Are you serious? I get that you’re hurt. And I too have suffered losses of 2 of my babies. I actually announced my last pregnancy on FB on April fool’s day because I thought it would be a fun way to announce my pregnancy. But because you’re hurt about you’re own personal loss, people can’t JOKE about being pregnant on a day that is MEANT for fooling people? Come on. Give me a break. Their JOKES aren’t at all related to your own personal situation. You’ve got to get over that. Now don’t get me wrong… I’m not saying to get over your losses, because that’ll never happen and I feel for you… But you’ve got to understand that you can’t take others situations and get upset yourself about it. So what if the pregnancy announcement was real? You’d still be upset correct? You’d still be jealous and hurt because of your own situation. You have to learn to separate yourself from them… But if all else fails and you can’t take it, do us all a favor and stay off of social media until April 2nd.

  2. I agree with you. I’m not one to give in to “snowflake” thinking, but I mean really… Of all the things to joke about, can a fake pregnancy just be added to the Nope List? Aside from it being INCREDIBLY played out, it’s guaranteed to hurt at least one person. Be it a person with loss experience, a person that can’t conceive, or a grandma that has her heart crushed because she’s not *really* going to be a grandma. When jokes come at the expense of another person’s very real and very deep emotional torment, well, it’s just not worth it. Being able to recognize that (even after the fact) is important.

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