How to Make a Homeschooling Mama Angry

As you might have figured out, if you have read my blog for a while, or if you know me in person, I homeschool my children. I know that many people have a negative view of homeschooling because they knew that one weird kid that was homeschooled or have had the misfortune of watching every reality show out there that has ever portrayed a homeschooling family. We are really not all like that, I swear. I know my fair share of weirdos that should really never homeschool and whose children will probably never make it in society, but for the most part, I know a lot of fairly normal people who for one reason or another decided to teach their child at home.
Tonight, I had the misfortune of having some gentleman tell me how horrible it was that I homeschool. I should also add that this was all in his reasoning why I should join an organization he runs (which I will never join now by the way). He came into my shop and asked me why I have not come by to check out a meeting, and I told him that I have been very busy with the business, homeschooling, and the other groups in which I am involved. His reply was that I should not homeschool. Homeschooling was wrong. As a taxpayer I was throwing my money away by teaching my children at home. Children belonged in a  public institution.
I kindly explained to him that I homeschool because public school just didn’t work for us. He just scoffed. Honestly, public school didn’t work for us. I have nothing against the school, public schools in general, teachers, or anything. However, public school just didn’t work with my son. I sat down with his teacher, and we decided that it was in his best interest to be homeschooled. I was not sure if I was going to homeschool my daughter, and she made the decision on her own. She asked to be homeschooled. They are both happy with their education, and while it is a lot of work, especially with having my husband away much of the time and also owning my own business, I am happy being their teacher. It also allows them to spend precious family time with my husband when he is home.
I kept my calm through the conversation, but the whole time I was seething inside. I homeschool because I want to do it, and because I think it is best for our family right now. I don’t think it is for everyone, but I really wish that people would have enough courtesy to stop bashing us. I am tired of conversations like these. I am tired of hearing how my children are not socialized, which is the biggest line of crap I have ever heard. My children and I are involved in multiple homeschool co-ops, extra curricular activities, and play groups . I am tired of hearing how my children won’t know how to act in “the real world.” Well, my children are pretty well-behaved. They ask a lot of questions. I am pretty confident that they will do just fine in the real world. Not only that, but I married a product of home education, and he seems to do just fine.
Like I said, I have nothing against schools, teachers, or anyone who puts their children in regular schools, but I just wish sometimes that people would just leave me alone and respect my decision to educate my children in a way that I feel is best for my family. Education is not a one size fits all kind of deal, and if you knew my children, you would know that I am raising some pretty amazing children.
Thanks for listening to my rant!



  1. Nicole @ Some Call It Natural
    November 9, 2012 at 4:38 am

    That’s so ridiculous that he felt you needed his opinion. You are doing the best thing for your kids right now, in your situation. He can do what he feels is best for his kids, right now, in HIS situation. And, what kind of reasoning is it that you should put your kids in public school because you are wasting your tax dollars?? Why does he care how YOUR tax dollars are spent?? And, don’t even get me started on that anyway… we (I homeschool as well) shouldn’t be paying public school tax dollars if we homeschool! Ugh. I’m so sorry you had to have that conversation. I’m sure you will have more just like it. I know I have. People will always give you their opinion about everything, whether you want it or not. Keep your chin up mama!

    • bearhaven
      November 12, 2012 at 10:03 pm

      I would hate to see what he has to say about people who send their kids to private school. I guess it takes all kinds

  2. terrikenworthy
    November 9, 2012 at 4:42 am

    It takes courage to assess your child’s needs and then do what you believe is best for him/her even when it’s not the easiest road to take . . . some folks are just ignorant and don’t really know what they’re talking about when they make broad generalizations and stereotypes. I have no doubt that your children ARE amazing because of all that you and your husband invest in them 🙂

    • bearhaven
      November 12, 2012 at 10:03 pm

      thank you 🙂

  3. Heidi
    November 9, 2012 at 2:06 pm

    You go, girl! There is nothing wrong with doing what’s best for your child. In fact, in recognizing that homeschooling was a better option, you did the BRAVE thing. I am sure you knew it would be alot of work, and that people are uneducated and unkind about it at times, and you chose to rise above those things and put your kids first! Kudos to you! More people should take such an active role in the lives of their children. Childhood is so brief, and you are getting to spend way more quality time with them! As a product of public school, I can say that in NO WAY did being there benefit me socially, but instead only tore me into pieces of my former self. I went to kindergarten with great self esteem and by the time I graduated high school, I had no idea who I was, only who everyone else wanted me to be. I wanted so badly to fit in that I lost all my individuality that make me special, and to this day as a grown woman I struggle with always wanting people to like or accept me at all costs. That is what public school did for me. I’m not bashing the system. I know lots of friends who still say high school was the best time of their lives, and maybe for them it was. I hope my son feels that way about school, too. But you better believe that if he doesn’t or if he is struggling or being picked, or made to feel “different” or unaccepted, I will be yanking him outta there so fast their heads will spin! You are inspirational! Screw that guy!

    • bearhaven
      November 12, 2012 at 10:06 pm

      Thank you. I have friends who are teachers, and I have so much respect for them. I have also had exchange students go to the public school here, and so I know some of the teachers and administration here. I think we need to do whatever works with our children to insure they have a wonderful childhood, gain the self-esteem they need to become strong adults, and learn all they need to know to survive when they are on their own.

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