Raising my son to not be a Stereotype

I read a lot of blog posts and articles about raising girls without gender stereotypes. However, I don’t see as much out there about raising boys to be the same way, and it saddens me.
My son, Bubby, is eight years old. He loves trains, Star Wars, Legos, action figures, and his Cabbage Patch Kids (and My Buddy Doll). You wouldn’t believe thew weird looks and comments I get when he takes one of his dolls out with him. He also loves dancing. He has taken hip-hop, acrobat, and now he is taking tap. He loves it and currently thinks it would be awesome to perform on stage like the guys he saw on stage this past summer. I have heard many not so nice comments about that as well, and it really bugs me.
I think kids should be kids. Childhood is such a short part of our lifetimes. Honestly, I don’t have a problem with my son playing with dolls, and neither does my husband. He pretends to feed them, bathe them, and change their diapers. Someday, he will be one awesome father who doesn’t have a fear of any of that because he practiced when he was younger. As for dance, it is teaching him coordination, rhythm, and a fun skill. If he wants to play sports when he is older, this will help him. If he performs on stage when he is older, I will be in the front row with his sister and father cheering for him.
So yeah, I think it is wonderful that there is so much information about teaching our girls to rise above the stereotypes out there. However, I think there needs to be more support for doing the same for our boys as well.



  1. Sarah (@MadeinUSABlog)
    October 20, 2011 at 10:02 pm

    I totally agree with you. I am trying to raise my son in the same way. Why not let boys play with dolls, or whatever they want for that matter? We all want our kids to learn to be loving and nurturing- that’s what will make them great husbands and fathers someday!

    • bearhaven
      October 21, 2011 at 3:41 am

      My son actually told someone that he would be a good father someday in response to someone making a comment about his Cabbage Patch Kid. Made me so proud!

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