A little problem

I am very happy that my children have made friends with some of the other children in the neighborhood. However, I have one small problem involving my son and his friends.
You see, it started last summer when Bubby’s friends down the street threw rocks in our pool and then pulling up some of my plants. I told them that it would not be tolerated and not to do it again. I know kids are kids, but the thing is that these children do not do this at the house next door to ours where they also have friends. There has been a few other things, and then recently, there has been the issue of my car.
My car is kept in our car port, and well, it is kind of my baby. It is the first car I ever bought new. I was the one who negotiated the price. I had done my research and had gotten a great deal. It was a big thing for me. It is a few years old now but in great condition. I like to keep it that way. So when I found multiple scratches on the passenger side door yesterday, I was more than a little upset. My son said that one of his friends down the street did it. So now I am upset that his friend did it and also that he knew about it and didn’t say anything to me or his friend!
I asked his friend about it, and his friend denied it. I am not sure what to do. My husband said that he can buff out the scratch. However, I don’t want something like this to happen again. I am not sure if I should say something to the parents because the child denied it, so it is my son’s word vs. their child’s.  I just don’t understand what has happened to manners and courtesy. I have always been nice to these children, but they have done things at my house more than once, and what is worse is that my son sees things and doesn’t say anything. It is just frustrating all around.
So I thought I would vent a little and ask for some advice on the matter. Any suggestions?



  1. Shari Alligood
    May 8, 2011 at 1:04 am

    I experienced a similar problem with one of my daughter’s friends when she was young (she’s 20 now) I stopped allowing her to play with them explaining that we don’t act like that a few weeks later my daughter who is an angel now came clean & said she had lied and blamed her friend for putting a rock through my tail light of my new car. So she got in trouble and was then allowed to play with her friend again only after she told her friend why she wasn’t allowed to play with her for a few weeks.

    • Shari Alligood
      May 8, 2011 at 1:05 am

      She had to apologize to their parents also..I know harsch but no problems ever again.

      • bearhaven
        May 10, 2011 at 2:57 am

        Sometimes you have to be harsh so they get the point of the lesson. I ended up talking to the next door neighbors, and they said that the child in question has destroyed their property as well and is now not allowed in their house. So I think I am going to take the same stance.

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