On Friday, I went for my second trimester anatomy scan, which was a totally different experience because I only had ultrasounds with my other pregnancies. I got a creepy picture of my baby’s skeleton head and thought all was going well. The doctor couldn’t see the gender of the baby, and there were a few other things he wanted to see up close that he couldn’t see at that time. However, he wasn’t concerned and just said for me to come back in a month. I was just happy that everything seemed to be going well and was starting to breathe a sigh of relief…until I went to checkout.
My doctor started to set everything up for my follow-up visit and then took a look in my chart. Everything suddenly changed. He saw my quad screen results and asked if I had seen them or if my midwife had gone over it with me. I had the blood test done over a week ago, but of course, no one had called me.
He said that the quad screen came back as a 1 in 30 chance that my baby had Down’s Syndrome. My heart sank. I fought hard not to cry in front of him and the nurse behind the counter. The plans went from a follow-up visit to a visit to the genetic counselor and a level 2 ultrasound. I will say that I appreciate that he didn’t instantly say something was wrong with the baby like the horrible OB I had for my first half of my pregnancy with Sissy Girl. However, after all the struggles my husband and I have been through the past two years trying to conceive, this came as a pretty big blow.
I spent most of the rest of the day with a racing mind and trying not to go into a full-blown panic attack. I cried. I got mad. Gotta love hormones, I tell ya. Then a few of my friends and I talked, and I started looking in some of the baby forums for answers.
The message I kept seeing over and over was that this was a common issue with Quad Screens. One of my friends had even mentioned that she wasn’t sure why they bothered to still do them since the occurrence of false positives was relatively high. The baby forums helped ease my fears a bit, and I woke the next morning a bit calmer.
A 1 in 30 chance seems so high, and after everything we have been through, it is a bit hard for me to process right now. No matter what, we will love and adore the baby. That is not an issue. However, it is a lot to take in and with all the hormones a pregnant woman has, it does put one through the wringer. I have little over a week until I get some more answers, so now I am just playing the waiting game.
However, I have been through this before. The difference is that when I got the call when I was pregnant with my daughter, I was told that my daughter had a million things wrong with her and that the level 2 ultrasound needed to be done early. What I wasn’t told was that it was only a chance, not a certainty.
Have any of you mothers gone through this? If so, what are your thoughts? If you are pregnant now and reading this, I want you to know that whatever you are feeling is okay. However, there are reasons to stay calm. As always, please feel free to leave a comment below.