With the exception of last year, my husband has been doing geology work in the oilfield seven of the last eight years. I think the year he was home, we never quite got used to him being home, nor did we ever fully adjust to being a full-time family of five.
We make it work for the most part. It has been hard lately as Crankles has hit the terrible twos…HARD. She has currently decided that she boycotts all naps, so by 7pm, she is in full meltdown mode. With the kids in extra-curriculars, moving up the bedtime is not an option. Anyways, Crankles does not remember her daddy being in the field so much, and it has been especially hard when he leaves. Tonight, I could feel my husband’s heart breaking a bit each time she told him not to go. It never gets easier.
We are lucky he has a good job, and he is with a good company too. However, the away time is always hard. We manage by chatting via Facebook and doing video chats. Now that he is on day shifts, that will be even easier to do. Making little kids understand that we grown ups have to do things we don’t always want to do in order to provide for our families is not so easy.
I suspect the next few days are going to be rough. I survive by taking time outs in the bathroom or shutting my bedroom door for a few minutes to breathe. The key to getting through it is trying stay calm. It is not always easy, and I often feel frazzled, but I am trying.
If you are in a relationship where your significant other travels a lot, know you have my full sympathy. We all adjust, and while we adjust things flow better, it never really gets any easier.
If your family is like ours, how do you cope when your significant other is away? Feel free to comment below or join the discussion on Facebook, and if you like this post, don’t forget to share!