I suspect the next few days are going to be rough. I survive by taking time outs in the bathroom or shutting my bedroom door for a few minutes to breathe. The key to getting through it is trying stay calm. It is not always easy, and I often feel frazzled, but I am trying.
I really thought we were done with this. I thought last year when he got laid off that it was a sign that maybe he could find another job, something that paid decently. I thought we could be that family I envisioned where he comes home every night, and we have family time. Instead, I… Continue reading The Reluctant Oilfield Wife
As mamas, we beat ourselves up so much about the job we do as parents. We let society, family members, and the people around us tell us how we are screwing it all up and let us know that we are all just horrible at what we are doing. That is when we need to find our tribe. We need to find those people that are not only honest with themselves, but honest about themselves with others.
(It's been difficult to write because of working on the house and migraines, but we are still here, and I am hoping that my migraines will be getting less.) A little over a year ago, our house hunt began for a new house and subsequently a whole new life. The process of coming to… Continue reading Little House in the City
I will admit that I am scared. I am scared of starting over again. I am afraid that the kids and I won't fit in our new community. I am afraid that we will make this move, and my husband still won't get an office position. I am afraid that he will get an office position and what it will actually be like having him home every night. My husband has been in the oil field for almost seven years. It's been a strain on our marriage. I love him, but it is scary to think of how much this kind of life has changed us.
With this long stint, I have started to worry how it will affect my husband's and my relationship, his relationship with the kids, and our family dynamic. It is hard to keep good dynamics when the kids are angry and hurt. Sometimes I feel angry and hurt too. It's hard to talk it out because he hasn't been home and because he hasn't been able to call much the past few weeks either.
Parenting is hard work. It sometimes seems like a never-ending battle with babies who don’t sleep, toddler tantrums, food aversions, attitudes, and all that. However, it goes by so quickly
Advice from an oilfield wife on how to get through the holidays when her husband is not able to come home
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As you can imagine, the last six weeks have been one heck of a roller coaster for my family. In all honesty, with my youngest being eight years old, my husband and I sort of feel like new parents again. There is so much more baby gear out there than there was eight years ago,… Continue reading Taking time to recharge