I want to bring villages back. I want mothers to know that it is okay if you are not okay. I want people to know that we do not all feel the same way as someone else in the same situation because we are all different. Most of all, I don't want others to be like me, to be so broken and alone and not know who or where to go to for help.
When you are struggling with fertility, whether it is your for your first child or in my case third, life can seem very unfair.
If you have suffered an infant loss or miscarriage. Please know you are not alone. Please know that while it is hard and while some people may not understand or support you, it is okay to grieve. It is okay to feel however you need to feel and for however long you need to feel it. This is not something that is often talked about. In fact, I didn't know how many of my friends had miscarriages until I started talking about mine. That is why I have talked about mine so much. I want people to know that it is okay to grieve for the child you didn't get to know. It is okay to miss that child and wonder what might have been.
About this time four years ago, my husband and I decided that we weren't done with having kids. At the time, our kids were 5 and 8. We had some things we wanted to work on in regards to our marriage, so we waited about another year to start trying. Two years and two miscarriages … Continue reading Post-Partum Depression is Not a Character Flaw
What I would like to tell anyone who has ever had PPD is that it's not your fault. I mean, your body goes through an awful lot when you have a baby, and your hormones are all out of whack. Just be sure to be gentle with yourself and don't be like me. Take people up on their offers to help and make sure you are getting the help you need. Also, realize you are not alone, and this will all pass. Just take care of yourself.
A mother shares her thoughts on fears and moving forward from miscarriage and its effects even after the rainbow baby is born.
One question I have been asked is why I talk about my miscarriages or write about them at all. Sometimes it is therapeutic, but mostly it has a lot to do with the fact that people don't talk about it. It's almost like we are supposed to keep quiet about it, pretend it didn't … Continue reading Why I chose to write about my losses