Times like this…

In the last few weeks, two people in my family passed away. I live about 500 miles away from my family, and I did not make it home. Even though I have not seen these family members in a few years, they will be missed. I felt like I should have been home for my other family members. I wanted to be supportive. It felt awful to hear my mother’s sadness in losing her sister and not being there to be able to comfort her. It is times like this that I really wish I lived closer to home.
I have lived away from everyone for about nine years now, and while I like it here (sometimes), I do miss everyone. I miss getting to see my nieces play sports. I miss being able to visit my family whenever I want. I sometimes feel like the odd one out because everyone else is still there, but I am not. However, that is life for many people these days. A lot of people don’t get to be surrounded by their family due to jobs, school, and other circumstances. In times like death, it is hard because it is a reminder of how short life really is.
While I may not be able to come home more than a few times a year for a visit, I want to make my visits count and spend as much time with my family as I can. I am thankful that I can call my mom and talk to family via Facebook. It helps. And even though I am not there, I want my family to always know that I love them and that they are still close to my heart.
If you are like me and live far from your parents or other family members, what do you do to make sure that you stay connected? As always, I love to hear from you!



  1. clarebear203
    February 27, 2012 at 4:47 pm

    I dont know how you feel as my family is close but in the same breath i kind of do, my mum is in hospital you see and as much as i want to see her everyday i just cant, its not possible! i feel so guilty and feel like im letting her down but at the end of the day she knows how much i love and adore and adore her and because of her love for me she understands, just like your family understand with you. life is life and as long as you try your best when you can its all that matters

    • bearhaven
      February 27, 2012 at 5:51 pm

      I agree. I felt really guilty when my mom went through breast cancer treatments and I wasn’t there, partly because of distance, partly because of work, and then partly due to my own illnesses. However, I made sure I called often to let her know I was thinking of her.

  2. Melissa Boyer
    February 27, 2012 at 5:40 pm

    My family is not as far away, but it’s still a 3-hour drive to visit, and with as busy as we are, visits are not very frequent. But I talk to my mom almost every other day on the phone, and chat with my dad on Facebook everyday. I really do love Facebook. It’s great for keeping in touch, even if it’s only to say “Good Morning” everyday. Like the comment above said, family will understand. 😀

    • bearhaven
      February 27, 2012 at 5:51 pm

      Facebook makes me so happy in that way. I still get to see what my nieces are doing, and it is nice to chat with them too either through that or by texting 🙂

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